Well, I didn't think I'd ever do this, but I'm caving in to pressure. Here are the latest pictures of our family, courtesy of yearbookyourself.com.
Me:
I know, I know. I obviously need a hobby!
Dress. I started at the expensive wedding dress stores. All the dresses they had were strapless, which was "in" at the time but not my style at all. I just couldn’t see spending $800 or more for a dress I didn’t even like. Then I discovered Memories consignment store in Hermitage. I found a dress that wasn’t strapless that I liked much better. The cost: $200, including dry cleaning beforehand. It had been worn once and looked brand new. Someone loaned me a veil and a tiara. I bought some sandals at Shoe Carnival for about $12, I think. No one saw them anyway. I did my own hair, though I did get some tips from a stylist beforehand.
Catering/Cakes. I was blessed to have my brother who is a chef volunteer to do the catering for me. He knew where to shop for good prices on food. He had several of his friends from work volunteer to help him, including one who made both the bride’s and groom’s cake for me for $8 total. He produced an incredible array of food (with help from the rest of my family), and threw in ice sculptures as an added touch. People are still talking about how good the food was at our reception.
Programs. Not a requirement, but I made these on the computer and had them copied for a minimal charge. I folded them myself.
Half of all marriages end in divorce today. I’m not saying those who choose more elaborate weddings are necessarily those who will end up divorced, but have we maybe lost sight of what is really important in a wedding and a marriage? If I had it to do again, even if I had an unlimited amount of money to spend, I wouldn’t change one thing about my wedding day. Well okay, maybe I would remember to bring the clips for my hot rollers.
At least I think that’s what it is.
So what is the solution? If you think about it, bug sprays are poisons. What is poisonous enough to kill bugs can’t be very good for us or our pets, even in small amounts. Not to mention that it makes me sick. But is it worse than poisonous spiders?
At least the coming cooler weather should help the problem for now, but they’ll be back. They’re probably making little nests and laying little eggs in a dark corner of my closet right now. So I guess I will have to decide which is worse: being poisoned by bug spray or possibly being bitten by a poisonous spider. Hmmm . . .
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I have been tagged by Kay of Notes from the Wall, who I didn’t even know read my blog but found me through surfing (which is actually very exciting to me to know that anyone reads my blog by choice). Now I have to come up with 7 interesting things about myself. With all the blogging I do, there’s not much I haven’t revealed already (at least that I’m willing to reveal), but here goes:
Everyone has things in their life that make a huge impact on them, that help define who they are. Among the greatest ones for me have been the life and death of my friend Pam.
read it some more. Over time this rubbed off on me, and though I may process it a little differently, I believe I have the same love for it now that she did.
I understand better now what it means to be sad. After she died, I experienced a new kind of sadness that I had never known before. There was some self-pity in missing her but it was also sadness for a life cut off too early (in my opinion), and for children who would have to grow up without a mother. Since then I haven’t wanted to watch sad movies or read sad books, I think because I don’t want to take the chance that I will ever be that sad again. I can also relate better now to others who are going through sad times, because I know what it’s like.
She taught me not to be afraid to age, Each year God gives me is a gift. Turning 40 wasn’t nearly as hard for me as turning 30 was, and one of the reasons was that I realized that Pam’s life had ended at 38, but for whatever reason, God has chosen to give me more time, and I am thankful for it.
But not to be afraid to die. When she realized that death was inevitable, I think she actually began to look forward to it. Her body was failing her, but she knew she would be going to heaven and would be healthy and whole again. The day of her funeral I came home and was looking for some shred of comfort, something to hold onto. She had given me a book a couple of years earlier of scripture verses to read in various situations. I admittedly had not read the whole thing cover to cover, but on this day I picked it up and looked at the page about death. There I saw, for the first time, a note in her handwriting beside what had become one of her favorite verses, "Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints." I wonder if she intended for me to find it at the time
that I did. On that day it became a reality to me, that for Christians death is not an end but a beginning.
She is an excellent seamstress and made many of my clothes while I was growing up. Apparently she saved all her scraps through the years and for this birthday gift used them all to make a beautiful quilt for me. It brings back many memories as the fabric reminds me of outfits I wore as a child (though I don’t remember all of them). The yellow-and-white checked fabric around the edges was like my bedspread during my school-aged years. It touches my heart to think of the many, many hours she spent selecting and putting together the fabrics and trim, cutting, measuring, and hand stitching it all together. It is a gift that I will cherish for the rest of my life. Thanks, Mom!